The "R" Word
We have created a new blog category here at Speed Dating Halifax. "Halifax Stories" will be written by individuals around Nova Scotia. It will included experiences, advice, thoughts and perhaps some light scandal! Our first Halifax Story is written by our very own, Harley Pye. This story was composed before she met her current partner, who she met at one of our Speed Dating events *shameless plug*. This amazing women will never let life pass her by, without first grabbing it by the balls! Thank-you, for sharing this story with us!
Author: Harley Pye
"Rejection" The R-word in the world of love and dating. It’s what people fear the most! You see it every night speed dating, and in all aspect of the dating world. What I’m here to tell you right now is that rejection is not the big bad wolf that we make it out to be, but rather the fear of it is. Fear itself can be paralyzing, make you not take that leap of faith. In the dating world it can make you sit and wait for Mr. or Mrs. right to come along, here’s the kicker folks; if you don’t put yourself out there with the reality of potentially being rejected, than it will take a long time to find them.
On a personal note, I recently had a conversation with a good friend of mine, making them aware that I had a romantic interested in them. In talking it through, it’s just not what they were looking for and they didn’t see me that way. Yet, the biggest take away from the conversation was that we were still going to be friends, that aspect of our relationship hadn’t and wasn’t going to change. This conversation spurred me writing this because I didn’t leave that discussion feeling defeated and deflated. It was liberating! Walking home I felt lighter than I had in months because I knew where I stood and how to conduct myself from there on in. That wouldn’t have happened if I hadn’t put myself out there and faced my fear of being rejected!
Now, I’m not saying that this may be the case for everyone. As we all know, romantic intention can change relationship dynamics. Yet what I want you to take away from this is the fact that; rejection is not only a part of dating, but a part of life. If you don’t jump in you’ll never know. Put faith in the people you surround yourself with. Communicate. Face your fears. Grow and develop. Be better for the next time.