At the beginning of my career as a matchmaker, I was naive to the judgement society has for fatness in the dating world. If you're like me, hearing that word 'fat' uttered so plainly may make you cringe. Fortunately, my amazing, queer event consultant, Harley Pye, explains the power of taking back the word fat. Harley explains, "It makes a lot of people uncomfortable but in my experience, taking back the word queer for myself and taking back the word fat for myself has had th

Do as I say, not as I do. #Ghosting is a nasty result of today's anonymous dating culture, and even "dating experts" like myself can be tempted by the ease of ghosting. In fact, I'm guilty of ghosting someone this weekend! Fortunately, he called me out on it, and afterwards I felt like a complete asshole. Here's the whole story: A couple Friday's ago I was out dancing my butt off at a friends 30th birthday. I dance a bit like a crazy person, so I was surprised when this very

It breaks my heart every time I see someone write off a potential romantic partner base on expectations put on that individual without their knowledge. It breaks my heart because I know I've done the same over and over in my life, and only recently realized what I was doing. I did this because I didn't want to get hurt like I had so many times before, but it truly is unfair when projected on someone new. I remember when I was 25, I moved back to Nova Scotia after living in Va

As a matchmaker, my favorite thing to ask one of my singles is:"Describe to me your perfect partner". Firstly no one is perfect, yet the beauty of being human is that we can vividly envision who that person would be. The descriptions usually begin pretty generic and basic. "I would like for him to be kind, giving and funny", or "I would like for her to be confident and sweet with a sense of humor". It just takes a little bit more coaxing for things to get a bit more specific.

Dating can be a battlefield, but it doesn't have to be. We need to go into the dating world in the right frame of mind, keep an eye out for red flags, limit the expectations we put on others and just have some fun getting to know new people. Personally, I can be completely oblivious to red flags, even if they are vigorously being waved directly in my face. Yet, even for me, there is one red flag that I will never ignore and I hear far too often. It's the good ole, "All women

I understand the desire to walk into a room of extremely attractive people and having your pick of the lot. It is human nature to want the world to bend based on our desires and wants. Life doesn't work like that, and neither does a singles event. To expect a group of people to cater to your preferences and your preferences alone is.... is... Just... Ewww! Not every person in that room is your type, but I guarantee there will be at least one or two. Also there are other men